Why can't men rationalise thoughts before they speak?
Our modern day society is very much focused on Self Esteem (not as Maslow-the man who coined the phrase conceived of it; but in some new concept based on Self- Expression or "Me-ism".
Presently social workers, and both psychologists, and psychiatrists (when they are not pumping their clients full of unneeded and potentially very harmful drugs); are very fond of saying to their clients-- especially in group discussions-- you are rationalising; express your true feelings--express the self. However many people--especially women--would rather run away or go around; thus avoiding the issue; or go over, under, or through and have only bruised knees to show for it; than to reach out and communicate.
Many a woman will complain that they are worried because their "intuition" tells them "something" is wrong in their relationships. Well it just happens that worry is the most useless of all human responses (perhaps that is why a human is the only living organism that is known to do so); and as for more neurons firing between the two sides of the brain: doctors claim that to be the major cause of brain dis-functions such as Epilepsy.
Rather than being honest and forthright, many women want their men to rationalise their thoughts in such a way that women will hear only what THEY want to hear. For many women; you know the ones that have both sides of their brain working for communication; the last thing they want to do is communicate.
Many a woman will complain that they are worried because their "intuition" tells them "something" is wrong in their relationships. Well it just happens that worry is the most useless of all human responses (perhaps that is why a human is the only living organism that is known to do so); and as for more neurons firing between the two sides of the brain: doctors claim that to be the major cause of brain dis-functions such as Epilepsy.
Rather than being honest and forthright, many women want their men to rationalise their thoughts in such a way that women will hear only what THEY want to hear. For many women; you know the ones that have both sides of their brain working for communication; the last thing they want to do is communicate.
However, when a man--or woman for that matter, speaks out rashly it is a clear indication that something is wrong and it is a time; if the relationship truly means anything that the parties MUST communicate
Physical love cannot exist with out emotion, passion, spontaneity and yes, sometimes even anger and violence (hopefully not toward the one that is loved). Spontaneity has saved far more relationships than it will ever harm.
Friendships oft would longer last,
and quarrels be prevented,
if angry words were let go past.
Forgiven.
Not resented.
©Al (Alex-Alexander) D. Girvan. All rights reserved.
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